An Alternative to All or Nothing


It’s got to be . . .

  • Good or bad.
  • Hard or easy.
  • Me or the business.
  • Me or the family.


The brain is programmed for all or nothing thinking only because it feels easier to make one choice so it can then set out to find evidence to support the choice.


It takes more brain power to believe that it can be both, therefore it’s best to settle for one or the other.


Here’s where it gets into a pickle.


If it believes that there’s only one choice, then “it better be the RIGHT choice.”


This is where the turmoil and the pressure to prove that you made the right choice come.


Followed by the need to be seen as someone who “made the right choice.”


Followed by doubt, regret or “the grass is greener on the other side” thinking.


In the end, you’re still using more brain power.


It doesn’t have to be all or nothing.


Being human is about being, doing and having the All AND No---Thing.


You get to let go of the or and choose the and, the contrast and the expansive range of the in between.


This allows you to step into grace to receive all that you are, all that you do, and all that you have.


You can then detach from the need to be one or the other.


This is what it means to fully accept yourself.


Live freely XO,

Vanessa Leung


P.S. If you are ready to help your brain recognize that you can be, do and have all the in between and truly accept who you are at the present moment, allow me to show you the way.  Book your free discovery call here.


Vanessa Leung is a Certified Mindset and Spiritual Life Coach, Speaker, Blogger, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Reiki energy practitioner and the founder of 80/20 Living & Co.

As a self-healer of over 30 years of doubt, guilt and fear, Vanessa is a living example of what the power of the mind can do.  Through mind training and practicing self-compassion, she went from living a life feeling lonely, insignificant and depressed to a life of joy, freedom and abundance.

Vanessa teaches simple and practical tools to help high achieving entrepreneurs to succeed with ease and get sh*t done without the mind games. She helps her clients get right down to the root cause of all their Fears. Her clients are able to own their fears, make decisions with confidence, trust in themselves to follow-through and create abundance in their life and business. Fearless and powerful.

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