How are you feeling today? If you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything that’s happening, you don’t have to pretend that everything is ok.
I’m right here with you. We’re in this together.
Yesterday, I deliberately chose not to look at social media because I knew that the only thing I can do to gain control, at this time, is to manage my own mind and emotions.
I gave myself permission to connect with myself.
I needed to give myself space and time to process my anxiety and to stop overthinking. If I continued to indulge and listen to my fears, I would’ve shut down and did nothing.
If I didn’t manage my own mind and emotions, I wouldn’t be able to show up at my best for you or for the people I care about most.
You see, it’s always been my nature to be the strong one during difficult times. When my grandfather had colon cancer, I was the one to help him to the bathroom. When my stepmother died, I was the one to do the eulogy.
At the time, I believed in a little white lie - “If I am strong for them then that means I’m strong.” It sounds like a nice thought, but it didn't serve me or anyone else.
Watching my grandfather slowly deteriorate was eating away at me. For months after my stepmom passed, I was distraught with guilt.
Sure, I may have been strong for my family at the time, but I was suffering inside. I was a wreck after - I was mentally and emotionally exhausted. My health suffered, I was feeling frustrated and my loved ones took the brunt of it.
The difference between now and then, is that now I can catch myself when I start to pretend to be strong. I recognize that pretending to be strong is only one of my fear responses and that it doesn’t help anyone in the long run.
Now, I know when I need to take time out to connect with myself so that I can show up and be genuinely strong.
There are 2 choices you can make:
- Put up a front now, drain your energy and suffer later.
- Allow yourself to process the discomfort now, regain your energy and show up as your true and best self for the long run.
Both choices feel uncomfortable.
The first choice leads you to long-term discomfort and feeling unhappy with yourself long-term. The second choice leads you to short-term discomfort and feeling good about yourself long-term.
Genuine strength feels powerful because it comes from within.
You cannot truly feel good about yourself if you’re helping others from an inauthentic place.
When you take the time to PAUSE, ACKNOWLEDGE and PROCESS your emotions, you can move through them faster.
Are you going to pretend to be strong or
show up at your best right now?
The answer is to show up at your best right now. Your loved ones can look to you as the example of genuine strength, right now.
I’m devoted to helping you work through overthinking and feeling anxiety.
For the next week, I’m offering 30 minute coaching sessions to help you calm your mind. There is no charge to this call.
It’s just YOU, ME and YOUR BRAIN. Let’s show it who’s boss.
Click the link below, book a time and let’s work through this.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Vanessa Leung is a Certified Mindset and Wellness Coach, Speaker, Blogger, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Reiki energy practitioner and the founder of 80/20 Living & Co.
As a self-healer of over 30 years of doubt, guilt and fear, Vanessa is a living example of what the power of the mind can do. Through mind training and practicing self-compassion, she went from living a life feeling lonely, insignificant and depressed to a life of joy, freedom and abundance.
Vanessa teaches a simple and practical method to help ambitious and compassionate entrepreneurs to stop negative patterns and get sh*t done with ease. Her unique set of tools and techniques help her clients move beyond their fears and elevate their energy and confidence. That way, they can stop sacrificing their well-being and succeed in their business while living their best life.