We want to be liked.

We want to be accepted.

We want to belong.


Here’s why I people please.


  • I want approval that I’m important.
  • I want approval that I’m doing the right thing.
  • I want approval that I’m good enough.


  • I don’t want to be left out.
  • I don’t want to be insignificant.
  • I don’t want to be seen as a failure.


These are all lies.

We don’t need anyone to recognize or acknowledge us.

That’s not their job.

It’s an inside job.


We are not being true to ourselves and the people we are “pleasing”.

We are manipulating ourselves to be someone we’re not in order to get approval, to be accepted and feel important.

We expect something in return when we please - “a thank you would be nice.”


People pleasing is a time and energy waster.



We waste our time spinning in thoughts of worry, wondering what other think about us.

It’s exhausting!


We are take room up in our brain and we block ourselves from what we’re meant to do with our time and energy, which is to EXPERIENCE, CREATE and SERVE.


People pleasing never feels good.

It feels inauthentic.

It feels like a sacrifice.


It feels good to experience.

It feels good to create.

It feels good to serve.


Drop the “people pleaser” identity.

It’s not who we are.

it never serves us or them.


Challenge yourself to step into your truth.

Say NO when you mean no and say YES when you genuinely want to say yes.

Choose to SERVE vs. PLEASE.


Live Freely as You XO,

Vanessa Leung

Vanessa Leung is a designer-turned-mindset coach who helps compassionate and creative leaders to drop their "I'm too busy" identity, stand strong in the truth and unleash their infinite potential for greatness.  

There is no thing more powerful than the mind.  Vanessa teaches you to think based on LOVE vs. FEAR so that we can allow the flow of abundance we are all meant to receive with less stress and more joy.

Working through over 30 years of self-doubt, Vanessa is a living example of what the power of the mind can do.  Through brain training and getting really good at self-compassion, she self-healed her symptoms of fatigued adrenals, depression and poor gut health.

Vanessa’s soul purpose is to guide you to connect to your MIND BODY SOUL, so that you show up not only to serve others at your best, but to live freely and step into the fullness of who you are.

It’s time for you to stop holding yourself back from a life of fulfillment!

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