Why do I care about what other people think of me?

When I worry about what someone thinks of me, one of two things happened.


I projected a thought of judgement on them like:

    • “They won’t understand.”
    • “They think they know everything.”
    • “They are trying to prove something.”


I projected a thought of judgement on myself like:

    • “I can never do what they did.”
    • “I know more than them.”
    • “I’m not as good as them.”


Fear of what another person might think of me, is always a result of what I have projected.

Whatever I project out, gets reflected back.


“Wherever your energy flows, abundance grows.”


I then spin into a vicious cycle of judgement and worry.

It’s exhausting!


What’s the alternative?

If I send thoughts of love and compassion to others and myself, I feel love and compassion for them and myself.


It’s that simple.


But sometimes my brain tells a story about how hard it is to do that.

I’ve been playing the “it’s hard to change” story for so long that I believe it.



It’s not hard.

I just choose to see it as hard because it’s more familiar to feel like a victim or feel like I’m part of a problem so I don't have to be responsible for myself.


It’s WAY MORE WORK to spend so much time and energy thinking and worrying up a whole (fictitious) story, justify myself and try to convince them that “I’m good enough”, than to think nothing of anyone, not make the situation mean anything bad about anyone and move forward.


Think nothing.

Mean nothing.

Move on.






Live Freely as You XO,

Vanessa Leung

Vanessa Leung is a Certified Life and Wellness Coach, Speaker, Blogger, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Reiki energy practitioner and the founder of 80/20 Living & Co.

Mindset is everything!  Clearing over 30 years of doubt, guilt and fear, Vanessa is a living example of what the power of the mind can do.  Through mind training and practicing self-compassion, she self-healed her symptoms of depression, eczema, cystic acne, fatigued adrenals and poor gut health.  She lives a life of abundance based on LOVE vs. FEAR.

Vanessa’s purpose is to create awareness and share her self-healing tools to help high-achieving business owners to drop their "I WANT TO but I CAN’T” identity, live their truth and unleash their infinite potential for greatness.

Vanessa teaches a practical and simple solution to work through the root cause of all distractions.  Her clients learn how to build a strong resilient mindset so they can effectively work through any doubt, guilt or fear they face on a daily basis so they can focus their time and energy on serving others while living a fulfilled and healthy life.


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