Why do I care about what other people think of me?

When I worry about what someone thinks of me, one of two things happened.


I projected a thought of judgement on them like:

    • “They won’t understand.”
    • “They think they know everything.”
    • “They are trying to prove something.”


I projected a thought of judgement on myself like:

    • “I can never do what they did.”
    • “I know more than them.”
    • “I’m not as good as them.”


Fear of what another person might think of me, is always a result of what I have projected.

Whatever I project out, gets reflected back.


“Wherever your energy flows, abundance grows.”


I then spin into a vicious cycle of judgement and worry.

It’s exhausting!


What’s the alternative?

If I send thoughts of love and compassion to others and myself, I feel love and compassion for them and myself.


It’s that simple.


But sometimes my brain tells a story about how hard it is to do that.

I’ve been playing the “it’s hard to change” story for so long that I believe it.



It’s not hard.

I just choose to see it as hard because it’s more familiar to feel like a victim or feel like I’m part of a problem so I don't have to be responsible for myself.


It’s WAY MORE WORK to spend so much time and energy thinking and worrying up a whole (fictitious) story, justify myself and try to convince them that “I’m good enough”, than to think nothing of anyone, not make the situation mean anything bad about anyone and move forward.


Think nothing.

Mean nothing.

Move on.






Live Freely as You XO,

Vanessa Leung

Vanessa Leung is a designer-turned-mindset coach who helps compassionate and creative leaders to drop their "I'm too busy" identity, stand strong in the truth and unleash their infinite potential for greatness.  

There is no thing more powerful than the mind.  Vanessa teaches you to think based on LOVE vs. FEAR so that we can allow the flow of abundance we are all meant to receive with less stress and more joy.

Working through over 30 years of self-doubt, Vanessa is a living example of what the power of the mind can do.  Through brain training and getting really good at self-compassion, she self-healed her symptoms of fatigued adrenals, depression and poor gut health.

Vanessa’s soul purpose is to guide you to connect to your MIND BODY SOUL, so that you show up not only to serve others at your best, but to live freely and step into the fullness of who you are.

It’s time for you to stop holding yourself back from a life of fulfillment!

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