I'm often conscious of eliminating certain words in my life because I know they are just not useful and never create a positive result.  Using this word in particular keeps me in a spinning cycle of negative self-talk and then I freeze or distract myself.  

So what word is it?

SHOULD

I should eat better.

She/he should call me back.

They should stop telling me what to do.

The word, should is deceiving because it sounds like it would be useful.  We think that perhaps it might motivate us or someone else to take action, but guess what?  It doesn't.  

Take a moment. 

Try it on and let me know how it feels.  

Do you feel it?  Does it feel good?

To me it feels like guilt.

When I say it about someone else, I feel like I’m judging or shaming them.

Do you see how it’s not useful?!

COULD vs. SHOULD

I invite you to choose to use the word COULD instead.

I could…

She/he could…

They could…

 

When I use could instead, it feels much more empowering.  

I could eat better, but I guess right now I’m choosing not to.

 

CHALLENGE FOR THE WEEK

I challenge you for the week to be conscious of when you use it.

Notice when you talk to someone else using the word should.  

Catch it, then release it.

 

CATCH + RELEASE

CATCH + RELEASE

CATCH + RELEASE

Let go of what’s not useful +

Focus on what IS useful.  

This is how we can stop wasting time and energy.

Do you want to stop wasting your time?

Eliminate this word + watch your life shift.

Want to feel better? Eliminate this word in your life. #abundancemindset #selfrespect #healthyrelationships #confidencecoach #success✨Sign up for the next Ask a Life Coach session https://www.8020livingco.com/ask-a-life-coach/

Posted by Vanessa Leung, Success and Wellness Coach on Sunday, August 18, 2019

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Vanessa Leung is a Certified Life and Wellness Coach, Speaker, Blogger, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Reiki energy practitioner and the founder of 80/20 Living & Co.

Mindset is everything!  Healing herself from over 30 years of doubt, guilt and fear, Vanessa is a living example of what the power of the mind can do.  Through mind training and practicing self-compassion, she self-healed her symptoms of depression, eczema, cystic acne, fatigued adrenals and poor gut health.  She lives a life of abundance based on LOVE vs. FEAR.

Vanessa’s purpose is to create awareness and share her self-healing tools to help high-achieving business owners to drop their "I WANT TO but I CAN’T” identity, live their truth and unleash their infinite potential for greatness.

Vanessa teaches a practical and simple solution to work through the root cause of all distractions.  Her clients learn how to build a strong resilient mindset so they can effectively work through any doubt, guilt or fear they face on a daily basis so they can focus their time and energy on serving others while living a fulfilled and healthy life.

ARE YOU READY TO FEEL FULFILLED AND FREE TO LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT?

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