Do people depend on you?

“If other people were happy, I would be happy.”

This was my definition of happiness for a long time.

Happiness was something I pretended to feel.  

I felt happy when...

  • other people recognized me for my help.
  • I was praised for my hard work.
  • my mind was numbed by alcohol.

Majority of the time, I felt frustrated.  

I felt frustrated when...

  • someone didn’t acknowledge me for what I did for them.
  • other people didn’t listen to my advice.
  • I couldn’t fix what was happening and make it all better.

When I failed, I punished myself by working more, eating more and drinking more.


If your stomach, chest or throat is feeling any tightness when reading this, you might just relate to some of this.

“I have so much to take care of, there’s not enough time to think about me.”
“If I couldn’t help them, I had no purpose.”


Did you know that you don’t have to feel completely exhausted at the end of your day?

Stop trying to please everyone and start saying NO to distractions because living this way isn’t sustainable for your health.


Don’t wait till your body screams for attention for you to start paying attention to yourself.

I waited till my skin broke out for me to pay attention.


If you feel like something has to change and you know it has to start with you, your time is now.

The only thing in your life you have control over is how you think, feel and respond to your life.


The only thing possible is YOU.


Give yourself a chance to align with your true you.

Give yourself the opportunity to learn how to show yourself the same compassion that you do for others.

Give yourself the time and space to change your mind about you.


If you are ready to stop draining your energy, start boosting your confidence and step into your true best self, don’t waste anymore time.  Book a Spark discovery call with me and let’s strategize your next steps now.


May you live in abundance XO,

Vanessa Leung


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