I get to help entrepreneurs connect to their best self doing what they love and have fun building their business at the same time.
In the last year, people-pleasing costed 40 people walking away from discovery calls without living the life they want right now.
These people wanted to make an impact in the world which meant hundreds of thousands of people and dollars left untouched to make a difference.
All because I was more focused on being liked by them, than to show them their truth and fight for their dreams.
I listened to their Fears and I accepted them as their truth.
I didn't show them their blocks of
- "I can't do it now."
- "I don't have the money."
- "I don't know if I can do it."
I didn't step into Integrity. I allowed my own Fears to get in my way of helping them see their brilliance.
I didn't send them off in Love. I sent them off in DOUBT.
You would think that knowing this would make me upset and down on myself.
No, because it's a waste of time and energy. It doesn't serve anyone.
Instead, I choose to step into it and own it.
This is when I allow Grace to step in.
I accept my humanness to have fears, fail and own it.
This is Fearlessness. The ability to own your fears certain that you can achieve anything I desire.
I then allow Gratitude to step in.
My Fearlessness has helped me to consistently do my self-work and share this work with over 250 people through my program, workshops, talks and events in the past year.
I then allow Curiousity to step in.
What can I believe differently about myself and the people who want my help?
"I’m here and I’m not going to give up on you or your dreams."
I then allow Intention to step in.
I am committed 100% to living and being there for these people, therefore I will do everything possible to practice and show up as this belief...
“I’m here and I’m not going to give up on you or your dreams.”
I allow Trust to step in.
I have nothing to lose. It all works for all. Everything I need to help me achieve this is here. I am certain of it.
The Outcome + My New Reality
I show up as my best self, in full presence of unconditional love for them and their dreams.
- I show them their Fears.
- I show them the impact of listening to their fears and letting go of their dreams.
- I show them how I can help them stand by their dreams even when they don’t believe in themselves.
- I help them make a decision for their future they can be certain about.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Vanessa Leung is a Success Coach, Speaker, Blogger and the founder of 80/20 Living & Co.
Vanessa teaches a simple and practical method to help ambitious leaders and coaches to stop negative patterns and get sh*t done with ease. Her unique set of tools and techniques help her clients move beyond their fears and elevate their energy and confidence. That way, they can succeed in their business while living their best life.
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