The Overachiever's Guide to Stop Overthinking
If you're an overachiever, you're bound to overthink things AFTER you've done or completed something.
For example - sending out an email or a blog post and then start to overthink what I wrote. Another common overthink moment for me would be after I meet someone for the first time, I spin about what I said and what I could've said.
The OVERTHINKING starts with unintentional questioning.
- What did I do wrong?
- What can I do to fix it?
- How can I improve next time?
The problem isn't in asking the questions. These questions are innocent and serves a purpose for my future.
The problem is in how I respond to them in the moment.
This is when I get off track with my day.
All of a sudden finding the answers and fixing or improving what I did turns into the most urgent thing I have to do. Nothing else takes precedence.
I get distracted by focusing on correcting only.
This means what I had intended to check off my list, gets shelved. I end up feeling overwhelmed at the end of the day because I didn't accomplish what I had set out to do because I just had to fix my mistake ERRRR.
Truth is I didn't have to fix what I did right then and there.
It wasn't as dramatic as my drama mind made it out to be. I could've stopped myself in the moment, see my story and process my feeling of inadequacy and then continue on with my day.
I responded that way because I didn't want to feel the discomfort of the negative emotion for the rest of the day.
Instead of allowing myself to process the emotion, I opted to run around trying to feel better but actually feeling worse, knowing that I had my original list of TO-DOs poking me in the back of my mind.
Why do we make it so difficult for ourselves sometimes? LOL
I can now look back and laugh at the silliness of my drama mind. This is how I experience exponential transformation. With every dramatic episode, I turn it into a learning opportunity so that I can rise above the drama for the next time. This is how I build resilience.
If you tend to overthink, here's an over-achiever's guide to mental clarity, calmness and expansion.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Vanessa Leung is a Success Coach, Speaker, Blogger and the founder of 80/20 Living & Co.
Vanessa teaches a simple and practical method to help ambitious leaders and coaches to stop negative patterns and get sh*t done with ease. Her unique set of tools and techniques help her clients move beyond their fears and elevate their energy and confidence. That way, they can succeed in their business while living their best life.
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