I used to hate being called a DRAMA QUEEN! Why? Because deep down inside, I knew it was true. Now if I’m told that I’m being a Drama Queen, I embrace it because I know that it’s an indication that I need to check in with my thoughts.
For those of you who read my post last week, know the situation I got myself into and how it caused unnecessary pain.
Sometimes we dramatize a situation so much that we forget our true purpose and our good intentions for the action in the first place!
In my situation, my ULTIMATE RESULT or main purpose was to help and comfort my loved ones so that they can feel better. What ended up happening was that everyone suffered because of my choices which was the total opposite of what I had intended!
Let’s break it down.
Your thoughts create a feeling or emotion, which drives your choices or actions causing your results. This is the coaching model that I use to coach and adapted from my own coach, Brooke Castillo.
YOUR THOUGHTS
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YOUR FEELINGS
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YOUR CHOICES
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YOUR RESULTS
MY THOUGHTS were “oh I can’t stand to see them go through their pain. I can’t just sit here and do nothing. I must comfort and help them relieve their pain by coaching them through their blocks.”
My MAIN THOUGHT was ‘I need to stop their pain.”
The FEELING OR EMOTION I had from that thought was ‘I FEEL HELPLESS’ and my heart was feeling the effects, tugging at the heartstrings.
This feeling then drove MY CHOICE, ‘I will my best tool to help comfort them, coaching.”
What to do next with this awareness? DO THE WORK.
Just like getting a toned body requires time and energy to build strength and resilience, our mind requires the same devotion!
QUESTION YOUR THOUGHT.
How does the thought serve you?
The thought ‘I need to stop their pain’ was not serving me because it caused me to feel helpless and painful.
Is the thought working for you or hindering you from getting the result that you want?
It was hindering because the thought isn’t going to solve the problem.
What is true?
The truth is I cannot help them feel less pain. Only they can feel their pain.
What can you control?
I can control my choices and emotions, which originates from my thought, therefore I can control my thought.
CHANGE YOUR THOUGHT.
How can you change your thought so that it’s working for you?
I do not need to stop their pain. I can help by asking them “how can I help?”
What is the empowering feeling you get from this new thought?
I feel helpful.
Choosing to be empowered by our thoughts is a much better way to live than to feel out of control and dramatic.
If you have an issue that you've been dealing with for awhile, let's work through it together and I can show you how to use my thought management model.